When I was younger I asked my mom to buy me some black jeans but she took it upon herself and bought me some hunter green husky jeans with a matching plaid shirt. Bad enough they were hunter green but for the big husky sign on the back as well dammit man-DJ Envy voice. All day in school kids were yelling ‘ho ho ho green giant” I remember getting in trouble because I threw a haymaker at some kid for teasing me.
Mom: why you throw a punch at somebody
Me: you bought me green husky jeans and they made fun of me
Mom: what you don’t like them
Me: not really I don’t know if it’s because it’s green or husky or both
Mom: when you get old enough you buy your own clothes but until then go in your room before I whip ya ass.
Sitting at my desk there was a 13 year old Sonny writing in his journal, “I can’t wait to be an adult. Man I can buy my own clothes. I can do whatever I want. Aint no bedtime for the big fella” Almost 20 years later I must admit that was the dumbest shit I ever wrote. As I get older I have to face the reality that I am an adult and if you don’t believe me here are some truth moments to let you know that you are an adult:
- There is only 1 life…you will face trials and tribulations but there are also triumphs and victories.
Life is what you make it. Sometimes it’s easy as playing a game on the rookie level and sometimes it’s as hard as defending cops who kill innocent people but nevertheless you deal with what comes and trust that help is on the way.
- Work hard, play hard
We go to work. We work 40-60 hours a week, every week for about 50 weeks a year so yeah take a break and relax. Can’t lie this is hard for me because I measure my adult skills by providing for my wife and kids and if I don’t feel like I’m working hard enough I turn into Julius from Everybody Hates Chris. It wasn’t until my recent vacation with my wife that I realized doing nothing for a few days is essential. But back to work so I can have more fun.
- When you make a mistake, own that shit, accept that shit, learn from that shit and don’t do that shit again
Look we are all humans and we are going to make mistakes. Sometimes we don’t realize it’s a mistake until someone confronts you. For example my wife and I were cracking jokes on each other when I said your fingers look like mozzarella sticks and then she responds with ‘Fuck you yo’. I thought we were joking but apparently that was offensive. Of course I’m apologetic because I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. I didn’t say ‘well you said I look like Freddie Jackson so I went for the jugular’. I don’t make excuses just admit I was wrong and move on.
- Taking photos become hard as shit
Have you ever been asked to take a photo and the person say only take a pic of face only nothing else? I’m not JcPenney or Segall Majestic or Olan Mills or that creep that’s trying to build a fake portfolio but really he’s taking pictures of women for whatever reason. I’m doing you a favor just let me take the picture. On the other hand I understand because I don’t like taking side profiles because I look like Kung Fu Panda with a beard from the side.
- Pay your fare
“If you pay like you weigh then you can stay baby”- Jadakiss. Man listen it doesn’t matter how much money you make you gonna pay your fare. You gotta pay for health insurance, social security and of course Uncle Sam. Like my aunt from Buffalo would say, “I’m the biggest boss that you seen thus far, don’t pay me you sleep in the car, that’s why I want another drink at the bar”. Looking at your pay stub and you go through different emotions. One emotion is filled with hell yeah I got some money then I look my bill spreadsheet and I’m like shit I’m broke as fuck.
- Social media aint reality
We are grown-ups. Nothing wrong with utilizing social media but you must know your limitations. Don’t fuck up a paycheck because you talking shit about your job on Facebook. Social media isn’t real life. Have you seen a broke person? Hell no. Everybody got money until you go to a restaurant then they pull out a calculator for the tip. It’s a falsehood and govern yourself accordingly.
- Stop trying to live your second childhood
You got responsibilities now homie. Now is not the time to try to be somebody that you’re not. For example if you 30 and up with a decent job now is not the time to want to be a drug dealer. Leave that ounce a weed alone and stack checks. Now is not the time to become Griselda Blanco or Pablo Escobar. Hit the snooze button on your alarm clock and then rush ya ass to work. If you aint about that life don’t wait until you have mouths to feed to start.
- Success is all about perception
Everybody views success differently. For some success is paying all your bills on time even if that means you’re dead broke for a week while others views success by how many places they can travel too. Look you determined your own success don’t let anyone else determine that for you. *cues key alert from DJ Khaled*
- Some people will always be assholes
It doesn’t matter how much good is happening in their lives they only focus on the bad. These people get on my last damn nerve. Maybe because I’ve been through some shit the past few years I look at things differently but some people will always be an asshole and if that’s you stay away from me because I aint got time for the fuck shit.
- Money will not solve your problems
This one is a tough one for me because when the money isn’t right by my standards my attitude changes. See I was taught by my dad that a man must provide for his family even if that means doing something illegal. Working multiple jobs isn’t a problem for me but with the extra money I would be sacrificing time with my kids. The hardest part about this topic is the fine line you have to draw between making money vs. spending time with family. Money can solve an immediate issue but there are some things money can’t buy.